Where I suggest saving you money : blankets, pacifiers, or clothing
If you’re reading this for yourself and your child, congratulations! Parenthood is the most rewarding journey. You will gain immeasurable joy, and lose sleep in place of it. There is no way I could have ever been prepared but here are some words of the products that carried us through with comfort.
I could talk about baby products all day but feel this conversation is a repetitive one so I will be straight to the point. Baby gear can get insanely expensive and I want to value your money like you do. Don’t worry about spending on blankets, pacifiers, or clothing. This is a place you can save your money. If you know anyone in this world, you will receive baby clothes and blankets as gifts. Embrace this with gracious thanks and spend on things that people will not buy. If you must buy baby clothes, and sometimes you must, go for pajamas only. I love Kyte Baby for every stage.
Here are my must have items when becoming a new parent but I’d like to explain two things first.
1) Your money is precious, and you really just need a carseat and diapers for this little bundle of perfection you’re bringing home. The rest amazon will deliver in case of need.
2) This process is a tough one and comfort is what I am offering here. These products are what helped my newborn and I acheive comfort in the intense transition.
Where I believe it is worth every penny: a.k.a.the purchase of sleep and/or efficiency
These truly are all must haves either for your registry or personal purchase. These can be purchased, borrowed or begged for but it would be worth getting them in your home.
The Bassinet – I loved this Halo bassinet because it allowed me the peace of sleeping as close to Jolene as I could without the fear smuthering. I was worried of suffocating her and the possible death that could be prevented by avoiding co sleeping. We slept side by side in safety with this bassinet able to practically sit on my mattress.
The Dock a Tot– This pillowy product was an answer to our sleep deprived prayers. This product is not what I would recommend having them sleep in if they don’t need because it is technically a lounger but Jolene loved to sleep in it and I let her for the first three months. It gave her comfort when I couldn’t hold her as she slept. This product also helped her transition to sleeping in her crib at 6 weeks old as well. Jolene has been an excellent sleeper at night since she was six weeks old. I attribute much of that success to the smooth start the Dock a tot gave us. It is difficult to put a price on sleep but $175 sounded like a deal to me.
The Swaddle – I bought a dozen different swaddles before Jo was born and had them washed and ready. Everything from basic to designer. This swaddle was the ONLY one she would tolerate and I believe it is a priceless piece of fabric but you can order it on amazon here.
The Moby Wrap – This wrap was the best invention for the modern day mother. I am sure parents would have killed for it centuries ago. This product made it possible to be productive while Jolene slept on me or was simply wanting to be held.
The Mattress– This product is pricey but it gave me much needed confidence in safe sleep when Jolene started sleeping on her own.
The Carseat – This one has been a great purchase for us. The safety rating were topping all of the charts in 2018 and coming in first or at worst second in 2019. Pick a carseat you love but that is safety rated above anything else. Flashy brand names aren’t worth impressing anyone.
and last but not least…the one must have in the newborn stage for mom. The breast pump is necessary whether you are breastfeeding, bottle-feeding, or both. If you gave birth to your newborn milk will come and it is important to have a way to extract it quickly if needed. This breast pump has been a wonderful investment and worked well for 8 months now.
This phase is a true metamorphosis for parent and child. It is a miraculous chapter to be gifted with. I hope you embrace the present moment with all of it’s messiness in pregnancy or parenting.
Photography by Shelley Foster