Lunching with your ladies or out shopping with your best friend for the latest summer must haves, you can find yourself ill prepared for an emphatic response. Sitting calmly with a friend who confides in telling you something tender is a tough situation when you don’t know how to respond. These moments are not planned and they often catch us off guard. How can you prepare for what to say when someone shares bad news? It is near impossible to respond correctly and with empathy. We desire to make someone feel better with a statement or point out the positive of the situation with little positive effect. In training as a CASA (court appointed special advocate) for abused and neglected children there was one day devoted to Empathy and understanding how to react and respond when someone shares something difficult with you. This training has stuck with me and aided in more situations than I could have thought. This video explains in simplistic form the need of someone who comes to you in confidence and what it is that will make them feel better. I am a natural born problem solver. Once I find of something beneath perfection I work madly to try and fix it. This experience and instruction has taught me to see the emotion and care for the person instead of trying to ‘fix’ what they have shared with me. Some share to receive validation and seek empathy, not to have their problem solved. I invite you all to take just a few minutes and watch this powerful video on how to be a better listener and to have the tools to respond effectively in these situations. Thanks for stopping by!
Photography by Shelley Foster