A rose is beautiful but has thorns; I feel there is a lesson in this simple truth of a flower. Pale skin, dark hair, and freckles. I would describe these features to my daughter as fair skin like snow white, raven colored hair that shines, and kisses from the sun on your cheeks. We all see ourselves through a deficit glass looking for flaws and things to fix or cover up. I sat at my vanity putting on eye cream one evening and my ten year old sister asked what it was. I explained it helped to moisturize my eyes and eliminate the dark circles under them. She quickly turned to the mirror to examine her own skin. She no sooner turned back to me to say “I have dark circles too!”. This simple moment between two sisters taught me something powerful. How we see ourselves effects us and it bleeds into our relationships. Our insecurities seep out into our actions and words without us being fully aware of our transparency. My young and radiant sister who is flawless now believes she has dark circles. It was me that pointed that out to her not a powerhouse publisher or the media. The way we see ourselves and value our worth is communicated unintentionally to the young women around us. The eye creams we use, the self tanners, the extensions, the lip plumper. What we do and how we care for ourselves says so much about our appreciation for our bodies, or the lack thereof. It is important to care for yourself. What are we doing to care for and love our bodies? With a little girl next to you, how do you communicate strength and appreciation for your body that offers so much good? We are all roses. We all have thorns. Our flaws can be seen however we choose. We may embrace them or we can cover them up. We pass on what we are and not what we hope to be. It is difficult to raise a child who is bilingual if you are monolingual. It is likewise difficult to raise a confident young women who appreciates her body if we are only counting our flaws in front of her. I will continue to use eye cream, wax my brows, and wear makeup but in the future I would explain it is to preserve and enhance the radiance I already have and am thankful for not to ‘fix’ anything. Let us light the way with confidence. Thanks for stopping by!
Photography by Shelley Foster